Monday, 1 September 2008

For a Mentor, Teacher and Friend

I doubt you will ever read this or hear these words spoken by me out loud but my thoughts and love is with you and your family and I will let you know that when I see you.
This morning when I heard your youngest son had passed away on Saturday I just, f*ck, I can’t even begin to imagine what you’re going through right now. The news shocked me then and I’m still in disbelief, death is so sudden.

I can’t get my head around the finality of death, but it’s so much harder when it happens so close to the beginning of the story.

“I was looking at your face, expressing; only last week I was listening to the tones of your voice, only yesterday, speaking of plans, in between small talk I was enjoying your laughter & hurting from your tears; only to be left behind, in tears, without you.”

Death is so final, so many unanswered questions

So many unhelpful, torturous thoughts,
infinitely recurring

This is...insurmountable pain,
we all know what a parents greatest fear is,
no one should ever have to outlive their kids
There isn’t a word or a thing anyone can do to clean up this wound for you
Some things never quite heal, there will always be a scar
and that’s the hardest part
It does get better,
but there will always be reminders
Sometimes our hopes and expectations betray us
but please focus on the positives,
the gift of their spirit, the experiences you shared
Those things are beyond our physical world,

they cannot be contained,

framed or taken away

You can keep those and they will add a gentle touch of joy to your tears
and fill your heart with loving warmth for years to come

I don’t think I’ll ever get over the finality of death
even when it finds me, it will find me unready
Life is for living and I don’t believe one lifetime could ever be enough to finish your plate and lick it clean. There’s always so much more.

To my Mentor, Teacher and Friend my deepest condolences are with you.
I know you’re a strong person but as I’m sure you know, it’s ok to be torn apart sometimes.
Just hope you know you’re not alone, so many people are thinking of you and sending you love and positive vibes.

Hope to see you soon

- Mr. Devo

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